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| How do I get my roommate who is a slob to keep the common area that we share in the dorm clean? |
jelly |
10/02/06 |
Hi my name is Anjali. I am a junior living in the dorms. I have a single room but I share a common area with my roommate Gwen. We have a futon, a tv and a fridge. It bugs me when she is messy. She is a complete slob. She never cleans her room so it smells. That is not a real issue because her room is her business because I have a single room. However she keeps the common area dirty too. She throws her trash on the floor, and she keeps open soda containers near the sofa and food wrappers. She never takes out the trash and never vaccums. I am the type of person that likes to vaccum once a week and take out the trash when it is full otherwise it stinks. My friend Audrey said I should talk to her but in a non threatning and joking manner so I sat down and casually told her to pick up the trash from the floor so I could vaccuum the room and she did that. Later on I told her that we should vacuum once a week because the floor gets really dirty she said ok and that she would do it next week. Later on I decided to be more direct with and have an actual discussion because I wanted to fix this problem permanently. So I sat down with her and told her that I thought she was a cool roommate and easy to get along with but it bothered me when she kept open containers near the futon and when she kept the common area dirty. She said that she was sorry and started to clean up everything. She told me to tell her next time the common area got too messy because had a tendency to leave her stuff lying around. Later during the week I told her that the trash can was full and so would she take out the trash. She said she knew that it wasfull and she would. But she never did so I did took out the trash on Saturday morning and vacuumed the common area. When she woke up on Saturday she said that I shouldn't have taken out the trash that she was planning to take it out when she got up. I don't know how to get her to keep the common area neat and clean without nagging her and being a bitch. Please help me come up with some nice effective ways to tell her because I have tried my best to be assertive? She is a nice person and I am becoming friends with her but if she continues to be messy then I am afraid I can't live with her anymore. I know that is bitchy but that is the way I feel? |
Clarification/Follow-up by jelly on 10/11/06 4:31 pm:
Thank you for your advice. I took care of the situation. My roommate and I talked to the RA and decided that I would vaccuum every week and she would take out the trash. Things are a lot better. She doesn't leave trash near the futon. The common area may not be perfect but it is clean at least. And to answer your question I am not a neat freak. I just like to vaccuum and take out the trash every week. All it takes me is 20 minutes. I don't think that asking her to take out the trash and vacuuming is being a neat freak. After all she shares the common area with me so she needs to keep it clean too.
Clarification/Follow-up by ttalady on 10/12/06 8:07 pm:
Just watch, she'll be your best of friends for years to come! Give and take. Listen, learn, and understand!
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