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emotions	Anonymous	04/01/04
my friend said he noticed two things about me which i could work on. first that when i am angry at someone, like last week i had an argument wiht my mom, then i was not answering anyone correctly. He said just because i had an argument with my mom, that did not mean that i treat everyone in a moody way. Second, i let emotions control my day and not my head which is needed at work. okay so how do i improve myself?
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purplewings		04/02/04
First of all, it's not an overnight process to change our way of responding. The sooner you begin though, the quicker it will come and you will like yourself so much better. Begin by taking a personal inventory of yourself on a daily basis. In this inventory ask yourself if you have done or said anything to offend or bring pain to another person. Dig deeply and be absolutely honest. When you answer someone in a sarcastic or grumpy manner, that is offensive and it is also somewhat hurtful to those who love you..... Look for the little things that you've said or done...things in every day living together. Ignoring, insulting, rejecting, etc. There are many that we do without even recognizing them as being unkind and lasting. Whatever you find you have done, you must make amends for. If you've raised your voice, or any of the things mentioned above, you must go to or phone the person, and give your apologies - and mean it. When you withhold affections and insist on sulking, you are being manipulative. That's to show everyone around you that you are unhappy with things. That is to make you feel that you are a princess and only your feelings are important. Doesn't that sound childish, selfish, and kind of mean?? You can change that by stopping doing it....apologizing when you've misstepped. The first step to changing is being aware. The daily inventory will keep you aware of what you're doing and after awhile you won't do it anymore. The sooner you recognize what you're doing and apologize, the sooner you will change..don't delay. If you catch yourself behaving in this immature, self-centered manner while you're doing it - stop yourself and apologize right then. People respect people who can admit they are behaving badly. They also respect people who are trying to change those old habits. Good luck. You won't need that though, because you are ready to change and that means all you have to do is stay aware and stay willing. PW

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